"I am safe."
"My body knows how to birth my baby."
"I am a badass."
All of these are birth affirmations, all of which can be effective ways to build the confidence you need to really own your birth and keep it positive.
Birth affirmations are a great way to continuously send yourself positive messages about birth necessary for an experience you feel you have control over.
Today I'll talk a little bit about birth affirmations, what they are, how to use them, and share some of my favorites you can use to have an awesome birth.
What is a Birth Affirmation?
I don't need to tell you that most of the birth stories we hear from people are often dramatic and really negative.
Though well-meaning, most mamas share their birth stories like it's a warrior's tale. Let's be honest, dramatic stories always fair a lot better than ones where everything goes to plan.
Hearing all this negativity translates to most women being fearful of birth, concerned they won't have any control, their bodies will fail them and they'll be left with a super negative and traumatic experience.
Birth affirmations try and change that.
These affirmations aren't little white lies, they're facts we can tell ourselves and perspectives we can remind ourselves of to remember we do have control over birth and it will be positive. It's when you jump into birth already resolved that it will be negative and frightening that a self-fulfilling prophecy takes place.
Instead, birth affirmations help get you in the mindset that birth can be full of control, confidence, positivity and dare I say, enjoyment.
How to Use Birth Affirmations
Start by finding birth affirmations that feel relevant and powerful to you. If one affirmation doesn't feel authentic, don't use it! Only choose to surround yourself with affirmations that speak to what you want your birth to be, reminders you need regularly and even the language that feels most like how you speak to yourself.
Once you've found the affirmations that really click, start surrounding yourself with them. Say them to yourself regularly, print them out and post them around your home, put them in your car, set alarms on your phones that pop-up your birth affirmations regularly, really steep yourself in the positivity.
When we surround ourself with the positive messages we want in our life, we start to firmly believe in them. Just think of how affective negative self talk can be. If you keep telling yourself "I'm just not talented," you start to believe that and close yourself off from opportunities and positive life experiences.
Now imagine if you did the opposite for your birth. Instead of giving into the unfounded fears you have, change the messages you tell yourself and start building trust and confidence in your body and birth. By the time labor starts, you'll feel like a badass ready to own her birth and take what she knows is possible!
My Favorite Affirmations
I couldn't just talk up birth affirmations without sharing some of my favorites!
Click here to check out my favorite affirmations I've saved on my Pinterest page.
Now go out and find yours, post them everywhere and take that positive birth you deserve!