Well, that's what is so deceiving about the birth plan, things rarely go exactly to plan, but that doesn't have to be a bad thing! Your baby has their own plan to enter the world and often times you might not be on the same page. The best thing you can do to keep a fulfilling birth experience is to adjust, which can be hard to do when you keep coming back to your well-thought-out plan.
This is why I love the term "birth wishes." With birth wishes, you think about what you envision for labor, your dream scenario. Having a list of what you'd love to have happen makes it a bit easier to adjust when something comes changes during labor. Having wishes helps you stay positive on what you can control, and let go of what you cannot.
As a guide, use your birth wishes to try and create as broad of a labor goal as possible.
For example, a birth plan may indicate you want to listen to guided meditation through out labor. However, four hours in, you realize that guided meditation was the worst idea and unlike normal, isn't helping you relax. Because it was part of your birth plan, you may feel discouraged you weren't able to follow through with part of your plan, and this may make labor more difficult for you.
Instead, make a wish that you'd like to keep your labor environment as calm as possible. Now, if guided meditation doesn't seem to do the trick, you can switch up your tactic. Perhaps 90's R&B was really what you needed to get in your groove during labor. By being willing to adapt, you're still sticking to your birth wish of keeping a calm environment and staying focused on the most important goal- helping your baby be born.
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