As a doula and a mom I have been through first baby purchase fever many times for myself and my mamas. What do I buy? What do I absolutely need for my baby? This worry had me in to-do list mania. But the question remains, what do you need for a new baby?
What I've learned for myself and by helping other mamas is your list of needs varries based on your lifestyle and values- it's hard to pin point what's absolutely necessary, versuses what feels like a luxary.
Our family tries to live by a more minimalist lifestyle, mostly because we have a tiny house and too much stuff turns into too much stress! That's why I'd like to share the items I've purchased and seen other mamas buy, that ultimately weren't very useful, were only used for a little while, or just added to the clutter. Here's my list of "forget about its".
Invest in a travel chaning mat you can lay on the floor in your house, as well as use on the dirty changing tables in public. Our travel mat not only saved our living room carpet from several newborn blow outs, but also came in handy changing Tess' diaper in the car, or in those sad public restrooms that don't have changing tables. You'll get so much use out of this compared to the changing table that will sit at home and become a landing pad for clean burp cloths.
friends will be dying to buy you stuffed animals and toys, some that won't be used for months down the line.
Now, what do you do when your baby does start grabbing, sitting, scooting and fiddling? Raid the kitchen cupboards and junk drawers!
Babies have just as much, if not more, fun with the simplest items they can bang, mouth and throw. Try using light metal mixing bowls, stackable cups, measuring spoons, scarves, empty water bottles filled with seeds or beads to shake, and anything that seems even remotely interesting!
My daughter is solid proof even the simplest item can become a favorite toy. Who would have thought an empty diaper wipe bag could result in extended entertainment?
Fast forward to almost a year later, and Tess is still co-sleeping in our room with us. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends children co-sleep in the same room with their parents for the first six months, ideally the first year. We've embraced this, mostly because Tess isn't the longest sleeper and her bedroom is on a different level of our house.
Would we make the same choices all over again? We sure would! But only because we were incredibly intentional on how much money and effort we put into her nursery, which will transition well into her toddler room.
Co-sleeping in the same room with your baby (we have Tess in a pack and play) can make the first weeks, months, or heck, even year, a lot easier for the family. You're awake less, bond nightly, and have the piece of mind your baby is right near by when you check their breathing ten times a night.
For families with babies right across the hall, a full nursery might be just the fit. But if you know you're going to co-sleep a bit, maybe hold off on "needing to get the nursery done before baby arrives" panic.
Instead, fill the nursery with the pieces your most excited about. Perhaps it's the rocking chair and books. Maybe your childhood stuffed animal matters most. Use the space to help your preparation, but not to build stress on getting things done by a certain timeline.
Remember, Target is always open, even after your baby is born.
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